Recent posts in some blogs have been concerned with the modern(Nigerian)woman vis á vis her relationships, money and morality.
Is the Nigerian woman virtue-deficient as a whole?
I think not.
Alongside the blare of cable television introducing our society to everything western are our mothers screams. They are our constant reminders of what it means to be ''African''.
don't show your belly button
don't talk to a man first
cross your legs when you sit
the man is the head of the family
that skirt is way too short
go to school
*but while you are it look for a man.
many of us choose what we listen to and what to discard as ''old school''.
It is my opinion that the emerging hybrid of womanhood is still innately African. She may flaunt her modernism by being blatantly sexual, garner degrees and accolades longer than her traditional name.She may succumb to western 'frivolities' unheard of mere years ago, like boasting of her ability to order in, and holy of hollies-earn more money than her man.
Has that made her different? Are we unlike our mothers?
Mothers to be and mothers today. Or was her image a façade?
Do you think she didn't scheme and made sure the village wrestler caught her eye after he won the fight then sneak over to ''Amalinze's'' hut when her own man was past his prime?(sorry, i think that was my granny)
Recently,I was chatting with an old friend and used the F word and was surprised when I was reprimanded. I asked him why because he knew I was a cusser (albeit a light one), his answer was that I am married now.
When did being married bestow virtues?
I must have missed that class.
My point here just incase it went over some heads, is that just like i will beat the hell outta any child of mine for using the f word, our mothers were naughty too. But our men seem to think them the epitome(pronounced ipitəmē) of sainthood. they had 'bad' girls in the villages willing to be married off to the village chief for social status and comfort, arent 'these' aristo fore runners?
Every visit to my granny ends with prayers for me and future husband and blah blah. I am told not to follow men with money but to look for a God fearing man. Then one day I tell my granny I have a boyfriend and we want to get married, to my amazement, mama wanted to know if he had money? When I said jokingly that money doesnt matter, she laughed the laugh of age.
You see? We are no worse than our mothers.
Guys, forgive the inebriation of youth, our tank tops and tongs will pass, we will wash our potty mouths with ariel,we will clasp our rosaries to our lips in fervent prayer and then we will become your mothers.
Okwaya o wu ihe unu choro?
or will we?
On a lighter note,
Guys, if you could only have 2 qualities out of these 3, what would it be?(but comment on the above first)
- She is miss world beautiful, and sex is always a trip to shangri-la
- She cooks better than your mother(we are assuming ya mama sabi cook)
- The house and your clothes are always spotless.